I woke one day and I was 43. Just like that. My hair loss began at 21, and I painfully existed for 13 years. Existed. Not lived.

I am so incredibly grateful, I am writing the number 13 to you and not 22.

I am so grateful, I was able to shift my mindset, able to learn to live with hair loss, able to get off the hamster wheel.

I didn’t get want I wanted and prayed for, for 13 years. I didn’t get ALL my hair back, my loss is going to be progressive. That is the nature of androgenetic alopecia (female pattern baldness).

My hair is removable.

My bio hair is so short, I haven’t been able to make a ponytail in 9 years.

And it’s OK. To me, this is OK, I’m at peace with that.

This wasn’t my dream scenario, but I could not be more grateful to have peace in my life with hair loss, something I never thought possible. Hair loss does not own me…. anymore.

This is hope, to me this IS hope. It may not be for everyone.

I was asked what is the hope I speak of – The hope is knowing there is life after hair loss, the ability to live a fulfilling life, and not be a slave to the loss. The ability to find true acceptance.

This exists, it’s real. A cure does not.

For me, the ultimate cure to hair loss has been acceptance.

Sending Much Love To All!


Healing With Hair Loss

by Y on June 30, 2021

Dealing with hair loss is hard. I don’t personally know anyone that was able to wave it off as though they got a paper cut and went on with their life the next day. 

I think we are all unique and deal with, and process things differently. 

Over the last 13+ years I have been able to observe that some people are able to rapidly move forward through their hair loss acceptance journey, whether or not that included wearing hair, treatment, shaving their head, or nothing at all.

Others, move slower, much slower. 

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First Do No Harm, To Yourself

by Y on June 9, 2021

Be careful when making decisions in the manner in which you decide you would like to treat your hair loss. I am not against treating hair loss, but I think because hair loss is such an emotional thing, many women make snap decisions in an effort to help themselves, only to find sometimes they are now in a worse position than they were prior.

Hair loss treatments do have risks, and worth noting, most are just flat out bogus and don’t don’t carry any medical or scientific possibility to even remotely help hair to regrow or stop shedding, and some could do more harm than good.

Desperation often sends logic sailing out the window.

I am not a doctor, but doctors are not necessarily going to be honest with you and tell you the truth and the reality of all the repercussions that can happen from doing XYZ. You need to advocate for yourself, you need to do your own research and make truly informed decisions and go into anything with eyes wide open and knowing all the potential downsides that can occur. Once you have the facts you are better equipped to make the right choice for yourself.

Just some thoughts for your consideration.

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Hair Bonding Considerations

by Y on June 2, 2021

Hair bonding is a very viable alternative hair option for women with hair loss who want to wear hair, but in my opinion it truly takes the RIGHT candidate, more than just practically, I also mean, emotionally. 

There are upsides and downsides to both wigs and bonding, and there are women on each side that would state that they would never do the other. We are all different and unique and it’s about finding what works for us. 

I made an IGTV video on this you can watch here: https://www.instagram.com/p/CPn2xWUAext/

I was convinced that was my only option over 9 years ago, and I truly felt I would be a bonder. I saw it done so well, by so many women on my site. 

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Anxiety Post. As in I am dealing with nearly debilitating anxiety today, and it has nothing to do with hair loss, imagine that – life can still kick your ass even when you’ve accepted your hair loss and wear wigs.

I post this for two reasons, one is to try and divert my mind and two, to let you know life will still happen even if you get your hair loss in order, it may be obvious to some, it wasn’t for me.

It was one of the biggest unwelcome eye opening moments I got years ago. I had spent so long banking everything on my hair loss situation being fixed – my hopes, my dreams, my future and I assumed my life would snap together in perfection if that ONE [massive] thing was was just resolved. It didn’t resolve by growing back as most people know – I cut my hair short and wear wigs, but that was resolution for me. Not as I originally wanted, but it was good enough, because it needed it to be good enough. I accepted the loss, I accepted wearing hair.

And then life actually got more complicated.

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Sex, Wigs & Hair Loss

by Y on May 28, 2021

Sex, Wigs & Hair Loss –  Can you have sex in a wig? Yes. Do you need to have sex in your wig? I don’t think you should feel you have to do anything other than what feels best for you, and what makes you feel most comfortable. 

If you choose to keep your hair on, I do think it’s helps if you’ve shared that you wear hair, and also note – there isn’t much of an explanation you are required to provide as to why – that’s up to you, but in doing so, you won’t be as concerned if it’s touched or if it slips a tiny bit. 

Personally, I would be turned off by anyone that doesn’t accept all of me, the hair loss and the wigs… and I often rip that bandaid before an appetizer is ordered on Day 1, so I haven’t really had to battle or navigate this situation with any degree of real stress to it. Also, my Instagram I use for Women’s Hair Loss Project is the only Instagram I use, so when someone says “Hey, what’s your Instagram?” That is what they get.  You’re welcome gentlemen. So it’s not  a secret to men or women in my life, but I do know not everyone wants to share, we are all different and I don’t think any one way is better than the other. Whichever allows you to live your best life, is the right way for you. 

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I don’t have the cure to hair loss, what I do have is the knowledge that the ability to live with hair loss exists, and that the ability to get to a place of being able to live with hair loss and not have it rule your life, does involve letting go of the need for anyone else’s approval or waiting for their validation of your situation. 

Acceptance is within us, and we control that… that should be a freeing feeling, knowing that no one has to give you that, you can give that to yourself. I’m not saying it’s easy, but I am saying waiting for validation can keep us stuck on the spin cycle. Hair loss is something very difficult for others to truly understand, and understand it in the manner to which it deeply and profoundly affects and alters our lives. You do not need to wait for anyone to get it in order to move forward in your life.

I don’t underestimate the value of validation and the healing properties within it, and I very much think being seen matters, but I also think waiting to be seen or waiting for validation, can hurt us and hold us back. 

I don’t know that enough thought or weight is given to the immense value and importance of changing our thoughts/mindset/pre-conceived notions for ourselves, rather than waiting or hoping for the validation or acceptance from others. 

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We cannot force anyone to understand our hair loss and what we are going through.

There are so few absolutes in this world, but I feel like this is one.

What we feel is so personal and intimate to us, and nobody, not even others experiencing hair loss can understand EXACTLY how we feel or what we are going through.

Be true to yourself, to your feelings. You don’t need to explain yourself or seek external validation. I know sometimes we want it, but expecting that will be a thing from other people in our lives can potentially halt us from healing and moving forward and often times if does lead to disappointment.

Even when people genuinely try and empathize, it can still feel they just don’t get it, or perhaps better stated, they aren’t “getting it” in the manner which we think/feel would be helpful to us. It really is something very difficult for others to understand and I know even the most well-intended people in my life were unable to make me feel understood and seen.

In time I got to a place I no longer needed that, nor sought it out. I do share about my hair loss and wearing wigs, but I don’t do so with ANY expectation of what another will or will not deliver.

I validate my situation, it’s real, it’s been deep.

Do you try to explain and share about your hair loss and/or hair wearing to people in your life? What has been your experience.

Share your thoughts and comments below.

Sending much love to all!


The Truth About Buying Wigs

by Y on May 6, 2021

I see a lot of less than favorable things occurring online when it comes to buying hair, false narratives, false promises, wildly inaccurate representations and ultimately at times, the failure to deliver the product promised.

If a customization is done to any wig or topper, whatsoever, the consumer is screwed if there is an issue. No recourse. Custom items cannot be returned, even if it was the manufacturer that messed the item up.

This is reality, this does go on.

I am often written by women who are devastated, who feel they have been taken advantage of, and lost thousands of dollars and nothing is done to help them by the provider. Women stay silent because they are worried to speak out about the really wrong things that occur in this industry for fear they will be shunned and worse that they they will be actually verbally attacked online by the provider – Yes this has been told to me.

This is madness when I hear it, It happens.

So the cycle perpetuates. I understand where women are coming from about not wanting to speak up, I understand how vulnerable this is, and that is what makes this even more insidious to me. Some manufacturers are, in my opinion, capitalizing on the vulnerability of women with hair loss and their inability to speak up about it when they get a defective product, or their custom order was messed up before they even received it.

Since I am contacted all the time from women wanting to buy wigs and asking for my input, I need to provide the truth about buying wigs. It’s really a buyer beware from ANY COMPANY.

Please share this message, please inform others. As women, as a community we should be looking out for one another.

Sending Much Love To All!


I notice a lot of people want solid answers, definitive answers on hair loss treatments, varying from IF it will work for them, IF they shed from the treatment – will the hair come back, where on the head the benefit will be, if any.

Unfortunately, there are no guarantees with anything and there are no definitive answers. We can only know what works and doesn’t work for us. There is nothing that universally responds exactly the same in every person… And everything, EVERYTHING has risks.

Anything that can make your hair grow, can also make it shed. That is a hair loss treatment universal truth. I am not a doctor, but this is also more than just my opinion and most ethical doctors would agree this is true. It’s not advertised, because it’s not a sexy selling point to anything. True for Minoxidil, true for PRP, true for laser therapy… anything.

I believe to do best for ourselves, we need the most education possible, so that we can make informed decisions and go in eyes wide open with ANYTHING we choose, whether it’s a hair loss treatment or wig.

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