Hair Envy – A Female Hair Loss Nightmare

by Y on August 12, 2008

So I just read a story on The Bald Truth website that sparked a touchy nerve for myself. The guy wrote he had “hair envy.” Oh my, how I can very much relate. I find I’ve lost countless seconds, minutes and hours of my life lusting after other women’s hair. If I ever witness a crime, I won’t be able to offer much other than a complete description of every hair follicle, of each woman who was in the room. Color, length, density, soft, dry… whatever, you name and I’ve taken note of it.

I am frequently absent from conversations of the company I am around because I’m too busy having wandering eyes for women’s hair. In the past it wasn’t uncommon for an entire day to be ruined because I saw what appeared to be a 90 year old woman with crazy, rich, silver, thick hair that could surely land her smack right in the middle of a Pantene commercial. How unfair! I started losing my hair at 21 and she STILL has ALL her hair. But as my mom always used to say “Life isn’t fair.” How true. Nine years of hair loss has shown me how unfair life can be to people, and I am talking about more than hair. Mental note to self… I got a raw deal, no two ways about it, no one should ever lose their hair at 21 or 30 or 40 for that matter. But, be thankful that I have my health, a wonderful partner, a great family and a pretty darn good life aside from this “hair thing.”

I never appreciated my thick hair when I had it, I wish I had. Everything we have can technically be “on loan” so we have to try so hard, even on those days when the shedding has us scraping the floor, to appreciate what we have today. I am reminded of the song “Everybody’s Free” by Baz Luhrmann. In the song he says, “Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.” and then he goes on to say “Do one thing every day that scares you.” and I’m thinking, uh I DO.. I SHOWER and COMB what’s left of my hair. πŸ™‚

Just for kicks, here is the video of the song “Everybody’s Free!”

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

mominny August 12, 2008 at 5:30 pm

Hi Y,
Loved what you just wrote. How true….I love and I quote “β€œDo one thing every day that scares you.” and I’m thinking, uh I DO.. I SHOWER and COMB what’s left of my hair. πŸ™‚ How true!



admin August 12, 2008 at 5:41 pm

Hey Momminy,

Glad you got a kick out of that! πŸ™‚ I’m sure lots of women will be able to relate.

All The Best,


misty August 12, 2008 at 6:00 pm

algebra – bubble gum… good explanation! I am such a worry wart by nature… it’s hard for me to NOT take things to an unhealthy level of extreme!!

So many things make me nervous and require me to STEP out of my box… which consists of being quiet and very much introverted… so I scare myself daily!! Oh yeah, the washing of the hair and wondering how much hair will be in my hand… yeah, that’s concerning too!!

We all relate!! We can all pick a murderer based on the length of their hair, whether it is frizzy or smooth, and how much (or little) is left! :o)



amber August 13, 2008 at 8:16 am

Okay, it is as if we are the same person…I have been struggling for 9 years since I was 21! I feel exactly the way you do and waste way too much time thinking about it as well. Is there a way to stop worrying about it though…if anyone figures out a way please let me know!

Thanks for your comment,


Sandy September 14, 2008 at 2:14 pm

WOW… really related to that. I too started really noticing my hair loss at 19-20 years old… and now that I’ve reached 32, have really learned to accept that yes, I did get a ‘raw deal’, but still need to keep it in perspective, no matter how hard that could be on certain days πŸ™‚ Really enjoyed reading that!


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