Robin’s Hair Loss Story – The Mind & Body Connection Is The First Step To Recovery

by admin on February 26, 2008

Robin's Hair Loss Story - The Mind & Body Connection Is The First Step To RecoveryBefore I share my story, I would like to thank this site for opening the door to a world of hope, understanding, and amazing strength. You are truly a remarkable young lady with a tremendously huge heart. Your words and intellectual spirit speak volumes about the very fibers of your being. Having this site, is a delight…… for sometimes, we have all been in a very dark and desperate place. Again, Thank You So Much!!!!!

I thought it was time to share some inspiration and background to my hair loss experience. I will tell you at times…. There where moments when I didn’t want to see the light from the sun, peer through my windows. The very thought of getting out of bed was a chore, a dreaded routine that was both exhausting and draining. At the age of 45 I have suffered with hair loss for well over 20 years. At first … it wasn’t that noticeable, after all, I was younger and had a busy schedule. Although it reared its ugly head I can honestly tell you I really didn’t put it all together until some 10 years later.

It was a slow process and more then likely I just ignored the signs… Back then I saw several doctors, truthfully… If I may be honest…. THEY SUCKED! The only thing they made sure of was my insurance numbers and mailing address were correct. Years of doctors and empty pockets, I realized that the traditional medical society for the most part reminded me of lawyers… They prey on your hardships and suck you dry! Years ago, doctors cared about following there passions in helping cure the sickly awhile tending to the needy with compassion and love. Today, while I am sure there’s a handful….. It is a commodity at best! I can tell you that worrying and obsessing over those things you cannot control only fuels the aging process as well as any illnesses you may have, The mind and body connection is real, and once you work with your body and not against it you will begin to see some beautiful things happen. Since this phenomena has taken place in my life… BEAUTIFUL things have happened, along with holistic care, and good old ancient herbal products, I can actually tell you I HAVE HAD LESS HAIR LOSS! Vibrant skin, and I even SOMETIMES feel like having SEX…. Although I have to be honest Id rather eat a big AS- piece of chocolate cake! Wait Girls the sex drive does start to go and yes wood grain station wagons start to become more appealing. My hair loss has a lot to do with stress and poor nutrition. I always had to be a size 3 and would wake up at three in the morning to go to the gym DO YOU GUYS THINK THAT IS JUST A BIT OBSESSIVE? If you will do one thing for yourselves from this day forward….. Breathe deep, look at the sun shine, love your family and know you are the best dam thing in town. If hair is hard to do … find yourself a stylist who knows her stuff. Having the right cut, color, and products is the answer. Try all the lotions potions and houdini magic tricks…. When the bag is empty and resources are tapped. look for the cosmetic side and do what you have to do to bring it on. They have so many amazing products on the market you would be surprised. At the age of 45 I have gone back to school to be a cosmetologist and that Is were I have put my passion. Soon, I will have a site for tips and other specialties to share so all of you can know ….What I paid to learn. I will be glad to share with you all the secret tips and easy ways to bring on the illusion of fuller hair. In the meantime if you have a question….. you can contact me through my Women’s Hair Loss Project Network Profile:

I shall let you know when the site will be up and running. I hope to help all I can. My goal is simple….. My heart will be available one head at a time … no appointments needed click ons welcome. Remember NO STRESSES……. KEEPS THE TRESSES.
Peace and Love,

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Dear Robin,

I so appreciate your dedication and passion for helping other women. I know how valuable a few hair styling tips and tricks can be. I’ve lived off them for years, along with my expensive stash of select thickening and smoothing hair products :) Since I have so little hair the products last forever basically, a small perk I guess. After meticulously watching my hair dresser I learned how to make a tiny amount of hair look 3 times the amount, of course all an illusion, but who cares right? Any little thing to help us feel better counts big time.

You are so right on about the mind and body connection. If we let our minds take over, our bodies will crumble and follow suit, depression spreads its wings and sooner or later, probably sooner, we find ourselves in a whole so deep it feels we’ll never dig ourselves out. Of course the reverse is true as well, be positive about today and the future and watch how your body changes and reacts for the better. I think it is important for women to know that yes there are most certainly ways to treat your hair loss, but the real treatment is self acceptance. Once you have that the rest will be…dare I say, easy.

I’m happy you are here to spread your knowledge and kindness and strength with the rest of community. When I first started this site, I was in a bit of a pit myself. I still encounter those days, but the more I wrote and interacted with other women the more I felt their strength, their caring, and in helping others, I helped myself. For that I am forever grateful to all the women on this community. Thank you.


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Shanlaree February 26, 2008 at 9:14 am


I love your upbeat attitude. Thank you for sharing your story and experience that you have had with your own hair loss and with not so helpful medical professionals. I love your passion and willingness to share information you learned for hair loss style tips.

Lisa February 26, 2008 at 10:13 am


Yesterday I had a day where I was down in the dumps and reading your story made me feel a little bit better. You so right that the body and mind are connected but I am having a hard time trying to work on taking better care of the both.

Y, I just wanted to again say thanks for this sight. You have helped so many women in so many ways and I truly admire your strength and honesty. I just hope that I can get to the point of acceptance.

I get my first biposy March 3rd and am terrified of what they will come back with. So far TE but could be FPB who knows.


Robin Flamish February 27, 2008 at 3:15 am

Hi lisa, And shanlaree… Just wanted to say I realize how hard the day can be yesterday I had that dreaded shed thing, I always know when its gonna happen because a day or so before my hair just gets to look dead. I can literally look at them and individually pick the ones that are gonna fall out. The whole itchy scalp- pre warning and sure enough THJE SHED MONSTER STOPS IN FOR A VISIT. Do you guys go through a similar pattern? The trouble with mine is … just as they start to come back they drop out again and well…. it just keeps going! One thing for sure though, its consistent in pattern and I have learned to accept it. I would be interested in knowing if anyone else has a similar history. Have a great day ladies! Peace!!!!!

Lisa February 27, 2008 at 7:49 am

Hi Robin:

I don’t usually get itchy scalp but have a few times in the past. My shed seems to be somewhat normal some days and just alot more on others.

I really do feel crazy because I don’t know if this is in my head and what I am experiencing is normal or not. They did say it was TE before but I don’t know if it slowed or what because it all seems a blur.

I will say though if I wash my hair sometimes it will look fine but by the end of the day it looks dead and dry so I wash it again the next day and I still have a decent amount of shed. Do you have TE Robin or AGA? Also do you seem to loose more that 100 strands a day? I am not sure I do. I really feel like this is driving me insane :(.

I am sorry you had a bad day. I am as well as everyone else here if you need to vent.


admin February 27, 2008 at 12:27 pm

Hey Robin,

Just want to let you know I’m so sorry you had a bad day yesterday, I definitely know how that goes. I am not usually able to predict my sheds only that on some of the occasions I have the hair scalp pain that occurs before. I’d say prior to my whole synthroid debacle my shedding had a pretty consistent occurrence yearly. I shed for probably 3-4 months (sometimes more) then it seemed I’d have a break for awhile and I suppose the hair regrew somewhat then it would fall out again. Progressively it would get thinner but since I always had that break where I had very little shedding the hair seemed to be able to gain some ground.

That is why I always let women know that most of the time with female pattern hair loss the hair isn’t just going to fall out all at once, it goes through many many cycles. I was certain when I was 21 that at the rate I was losing hair I’d be completely bald by 30. Well I’m not, I have very thin hair but it’s not like I’m sporting the homer simpson like I thought my fate was going to be.

Hope you are doing better today!


Robin Flamish February 27, 2008 at 7:07 pm

Hey guys Just a couple of notes…. The te is a deffinite for me and it seems when Iam zipped out (stressed) i go throught the shed thing. I have noticed of late I wasnt applying the rosemary ginger and lavender solution I make. This I feel has made a difference . When i faithfully applied it I did notice a decrease in the shedding. I have been told I have inherited thinning (genetic) as well as T.E. LOL about the Homer Simpson comment, Thanks for a great laugh. My youngest daughter has Mental dissabilities and at times it really is a lot to handle mentally. Coupled up with the hair loss and other pressures, it seems to aggravate the condition further. That Is why I say control the mind and keep it calm. I CAN TELL YOU THIS HAS MADE A DRAMATIC DIFFERENCE! REMEMBER YOU CANT CONTROL THOSE THINGS YOU CANT CONTROL! we will find answers, only if we stick together! I have put a beautiful bracelet together in which I intend on donating proceeds to The American Hair Loss Association for future research. I hope to keep the sales strong so we may fuel research for all who suffer. Soon They will be available to view. I will keep you guys posted. Remeber these words as you look back in history….. And in to the future… Together WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE! ARE YOU THERE??? WITH ME?

Robin Flamish February 27, 2008 at 7:15 pm

Lisa, I forgot to mention Good luck with the scalp biopsy, Relax…. You know where here waiting to cheer you on no matter what the results are. This community is ready to catch us all, with love, spirit and compassion. I adore all of you and Thank God I have found you all! Peace

Julie March 1, 2008 at 10:19 am

I had this site sent to me through google alerts. Thought it might be another source for you.

Marianne May 20, 2008 at 6:00 pm

Thank you Robin, this is very inspiring. Certainly more than I was hoping for on my google search for some answers on hair loss in women. I am so glad to know that I am not alone in my worry and distress with this condition.

Carol May 21, 2008 at 1:46 am

Hello Robin,
Thank you for your inspiring words. I was hoping you could share with me your home remedy of rosemary ginger and lavender solution.

gaby May 22, 2016 at 10:42 pm


I had a question regarding body hair loss and regrowth. I’ve been loosing hair on and off for the past 5 years. I am 39 years old. All of my blood work (from a military doc) has come back negative except for low iron. So I’ve been taking an iron supplement prescribed by the doctor for the past month. I’m also using Rogaine, but just in the front area of my hair, as recommended by my doctor. The last two weeks I’ve noticed that the hair on my arms, which was completely gone before, is now back. One arm has definitely more hair than the other. What are your thoughts? Could it be taking the iron supplements? I also noticed that I got a lot of hair in the area where I’ve been using Rogaine, but also on my forehead and temples and even a bit down my cheeks. I do sometimes have the Rogaine spill and it touches my forehead (which I wipe off). I’m confused and surprised with what is happening. Meanwhile, hair fall out is still a lot and constant during the day. I also have an itchy scalp. I will consult my doctor, but military doctors are slow to switch to any new treatment or recommend more testing. I also went to a dermatologist who insists I have a lot of hair and that maybe the iron deficiency is to blame for the fall out. She also said the itchy scalp if because of dryness and recommended olive oil. Please any advice is helpful at this point. I especially hate having the itchy scalp and the hair fall out–I hate washing my hair and even touching it.

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