Comments on: So Three Wig Wearers Walk Into a Wig Shop… Lina’s Update

By: Lina

Lina — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 19:56:44 +0000

@Andrea
Thank you honey, a warrior? That is quite a transformation considering the depths I sank – that just made me reflect on truly how far I guess I’ve come. Lots to go still and you so nailed it with the journey of life being so challenging and unfair at times…
Here is to the warrior in all of us – even when we can’t see her.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:25:08 +0000

This post made me cry, mostly tears of joy. 🙂 Your spirit is beautiful and you are courageous. Our journey through life can be so challenging and seem so unfair at times. It’s such a blessing to see triumph, self acceptance and true bravery along the way. You are a warrior! 🙂

By: Angie T

Angie T — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 04:10:02 +0000

Yes, they were tears of joy, I have followed your journey and still remember how tough it was for you in the beginning. You havve come so far and inspired so many and I’m just so HAPPY for you to be in such a great place. Yes. Tears of joy, indeed.

Xoxo, Angie

By: lina

lina — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 00:53:56 +0000

@kiki
I purchased a wigrip and brush from Milano. I saw a virgin human hair wig I liked very much and noted the colour: 10-4. The sales lady in the back was very unapproachable and I am not in the financial position to buy a wig right now but would consider the one I saw if I could find on their site how to measure for a cap, I couldn’t find a cap size option and to me that makes all the difference in the way it fits. The hair was lovely and less than half the price of the virgin I currently have! That’s amazing. I do believe that if I use a new brand of wig, I will need to try the first one on in person – it’s just too big an investment to go site unseen for me.
Hope this helps.

@Angie
I love you my forever friend! I sure hope those are tears of joy?!
Trust me when I say, lean on those who will allow you and know that you can face, conquer and thrive. You are an amazing individual and that has nothing to do with hair!
I want laughter and happiness the most for you because you so deserve it!
xo to you, Risa and your whole family.

By: Angie T

Angie T — Sun, 07 Jul 2013 22:13:55 +0000

((((Lina)))) You’ve made me cry, dammit!

I Love You, My Forever Friend.

Enough said…..Angie 🙂

By: Kiki

Kiki — Sun, 07 Jul 2013 16:54:06 +0000

Did you wind up purchasing anything at Milano- how was quality of their wigs

By: lina

lina — Sat, 06 Jul 2013 20:16:16 +0000

See what I mean about the ah-mazing women here…

@Ciella,
Seems we both will be raising the anniversary glass toast next month! Congratulations. Also, thank you for saying I was an inspiration to you – those are deep words for me.
I have followed your journey too and you have come a long way. You are always a source of compassion and positivity to all. It is funny how this journey has dragged us down so, who would of thought I would talk about this with “strangers”, laugh and cry with them, meet them in person. All the times I was dismissed or made to feel stupid about my hair loss and frozen and it took these “strangers” to help me through one of my toughest battles. I love you all so much. One day we may meet, you never know, amazing how the world opens up when you let it. Have a happy day xo

@Mari
15 years of wearing hair and 13 to feel pretty ok about it – see doctors, see how serious this can be!
You sound so good, positive, happy and at peace and I love your last few sentences, hair loss does not rule your emotions anymore – high five sista!
Yes, we can be beautiful and sexy no matter what and duh your boyfriend adores you no matter what – we really are the inside stuff not the window dressing. Honestly, it is a difficult subject for me thinking about telling a man in hopes to have a relationship but meeting people with hair loss in person and listening to people like you, I only see the wonder of them – all the amazing, infectious personality. Thank you.
xo
Oh yeah – I’m clapping my hands excited to hear about your new human hair!

@Linda
I’m sorry this happened to you so fast and at the same time amazed at how quickly it seems you dealt and found the perspective (I am awestruck at how strong you are) – I don’t dwell but I lost a lot of time and living – a lot. Your positive attitude is wonderful and hair count does not define you or me or anyone else. I love that you have so many things to be grateful for and you are right about being kind to ourselves – somehow that can be one of the most difficult things to do, when it completely should not be.
Thank you for sharing with me. xo

@Erin
thank you for your kind words. This hair loss can so creep into every aspect of how we feel about ourselves. I got caught up in the negativity and ugly that I saw and felt about me – this is a prime example of how powerful our minds truly are. I also mourned for so long that I didn’t know how to see light instead of darkness. Only when I opened up here and found you all did that change for me. I happen to have had exchanges with you and see your wonderful self, you will see her too, just be kind to yourself and reach out to us here whenever you need or want to.
xo

@Lauren
Oddly, I thought I was alone but when I shared how I was feeling about myself after I decided to wear hair, a lot of women told me they started the negative pick apart too. I’m not exactly sure why? I think in my case, I suffered for so long and my hair was the focus – if I could only fix that one thing… Then I was dealing with looking at me in hair and getting used to that, it was like I wasn’t allowed to like what I saw. I don’t know if it was because I was negative for so long and boy that can screw with your psyche or if because it wasn’t my real hair something has to be wrong – I’m not allowed to feel good in hair? This shit does not make sense at all.
Just know, we can feel good for who we are – even wearing hair! This will pass, can we lose a few pounds? maybe. Is my body the greatest? hell no. Would I like little more here and a little less there? Sure. But you know what? I am me – imperfections and all. Why do I expect something from myself that I don’t expect from others? Beauty is 100% from within – let us all not forget. You strut your hair baby and you are beautiful. xo

@Beth
First, I also am giving a huge thank you to Y – I feel protective of her, like she saved me but truth is she saved and helped A LOT of us!
I agree with you 100% about hair advertising – geesh, you know how many hair commercials, ads, shows, products abound?! Ask any hair loss sufferer and they will give you an eye roll and spit up a little!
It’s like the home decorating magazines – walk in closets, spa bathrooms, kitchens to drool over! Really? How does that help my 700 sq ft apt and living in reality?
I admire your openness and strength – I aspire to that and am not there yet, maybe one day.
Thank you for sharing. xo

@Annette
Wanting to be here will get you here! WHLP is the right place.
Do you know how many conversations I have had in my head and aloud to myself trying to talk myself into: wearing hair; accepting me, holding my head high, allowing myself to be happy, telling myself I am more than what I look like, the inside matters most… Anything and everything to help me – sticky notes of positive quotes and inspiration on my fridge, mirror. This is a journey, one step in front of the other – no matter how small. God’s blessings to you my dear. xo

@Clara
So funny, I tried to put make up on last night – and not a lot as I never wear make up, I felt ugly and dressed accordingly. I found out, I don’t even know how to wear make up. I’m gonna learn and now I want to dress better, I feel good on the inside and want it to show on the out 🙂 It is because of all the stories here that I am where I am at. So happy to hear you are moving forward big time!
xo

By: Clara

Clara — Sat, 06 Jul 2013 12:10:23 +0000

I can so relate to Lina’s story – itis my story too. I’ve been wearing a wig for one month now and I’m just starting to like myself again – even wearing makeup! WHLP is wonderful, even if I don’t write a lot I read everything Y posts and it’s so relieving to see that I’m not a freak or alone in the world.

@Beth Stein I so agree with you. I found out I feel more confortable with letting friends know that I wear a wig instead of trying to conceal it (which I couldn’t because they’ve seen me before wearing a shawl 24/7). I think most people tend to be nice and supportive about it. Of course nasty people will probably talk on your back but they would do that anyway wig or no wig. I really think we should all try and “come out of the closet” as hair wearers as a way to unmask the shame as you put it 🙂

By: Annette

Annette — Sat, 06 Jul 2013 00:37:40 +0000

Wow… Lina – this is where I want/I WILL be someday! So so sooooo happy for you!!! We will ALL get there – in one way or another, it will happen… God’s Blessings to you and to all of us…. xo

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 05 Jul 2013 23:23:22 +0000

So at first I was going to respond by posting my whole long, sad hair loss story, but I deleted that because what I really want to say, is “thank you “Y”, for making it alright for me (and others) to wear wigs. When you think about it, why does it carry such a stigma? In this day and age when every model has breast implants and hair extensions, what is it about wigs that seems so, well…embarrassing. Like if anyone finds out, OMG! Maybe it is the very word “wig” itself. Or perhaps it is all the bad ones you see out there. Or maybe, just maybe it’s because we all think that we are the only one in the world who is wearing a wig. I mean absolutely NO ONE talks about it. Every magazine has hair style features, but when was the last time you opened a women’s magazine (even Oprah or More) and saw a feature on how to style wigs or thin hair? Anyway…. recently my mother (quite bald) passed away and to get over my feelings of loss (mother and hair), thanks to this site, I found the courage to purchase a very high end wig human hair wig like Follea. After owning it for about a week I decided to take some pictures of myself with my new “do” and post them on Facebook. When the compliments started pouring in, I posted and told everyone in Facebook land that I am experiencing hairloss and that surprise … it’s a wig! This is my small personal step towards helping to unmask the “shame”. Thank you “Y”, with all my heart, for taking a giant one.