Comments on: The Women’s Hair Loss Project Presents… Hair Never Looked So Good (Video)

By: Angie T

Angie T — Sun, 16 Jun 2013 17:41:50 +0000

@Phillygirl – I know how it feels to be suicidal. And I lost my brother to suicide. Sometimes I think if he hadn’t done what he did, I would’ve killed myself years ago. In my case, there is much more going on than my hair. (I have a daughter w/atypical Rett Syndrome who is severely autistic, non-verbal, and has many physical issues. I also have some health issues of my own.)

Anyway, coming here for the last few years has made me realize that, yes…I will most likely end up wearing hair at some point in my life. Whether I’ll bond, or wear a wig, I don’t know….but it WILL happen, and it’s OKAY. Right now I use Toppik (lots of Toppik!) and my hair looks fairly decent. I have done so much to try and save my hair and you know what? I’m finally getting to the point where wearing a wig would be a relief.

So, we might wear wigs. So what? We’ll look fabulous! We won’t be loathing and self conscious anymore! We all have to exit this earth at some point and I don’t want to look back on life and realize how much time I’ve let myself be utterly miserable when there ARE solutions out there. FABULOUS SOLUTIONS!

My little girl, who is ten years old, is never going to get better. She will never speak, read, or write. She’ll never live on her own, hold a job, or have a family of her own. In comparison, my whining about my thinning hair seems pretty pathetic. My daughter has the most gorgeous hair you ever saw – thick, straight, luscious hair. I could shave it all off tomorrow and she could care less, she would still be HER, the fabulous girl I know and love.

Anyhow, sorry to get so lengthy. To the person who said they would rather die than wear a wig, that is your choice. But as someone else said to you, there will come a day when hair loss is the least of your concerns. Enjoy life while you can! Or, come live a day of MY life and see how good you actually have it!

By: Phillygrl

Phillygrl — Sat, 15 Jun 2013 01:24:26 +0000

Dearest “L”…I’ve been in a bad place and trying to stay off the boards for awhile but just ran across this thread in my email.l
I will try to stay on the high road as I respond to what I’m sure was a well meaning post that came across unintentionally snarky,condescending and down right cruel. THIS is the place where we can vent freely. THIS is the place where we can say our darkest thoughts and feelings about our hairloss without someone telling us we are VAIN or it’s all in our head or how LUCKY we are to not have something worse.
Of course we know all that in the biggest part of our brains but these feelings of despair and,yes, suicide are all real and we all deal with things in our own time and at our own level.
There are many nights I don’t want to wake up in the morning and have to deal with this anymore. I have become a near recluse and am only a ghost of myself due to this hair loss hell. It may sound stupid to someone who is dealing with it just fine but if I didn’t have this place to say “I’m in the dark place” or “I’m thinking I’d rather die” I don’t know what I’d do. Its exhausting having to pretend those feelings arent there.This is the only place I don’t have to be strong and put on the show of strength for everyone.
So,”Z” I understand what u meant when you wrote those words and please know that this is the place to get that out without feeling stupid or judged. And thank you so much my dearest friend Lina and to Y for pulling me out of those darkest days without making me ashamed for it. Xoxo
LOVE TO ALL OF YOU

By: SabineTawni

SabineTawni — Wed, 12 Jun 2013 15:00:21 +0000

I don’t think wanting a normal appearance is “Vanity”. I have alopecia universals. I find it very frustrating, but I am not depressed over it. I do wear a wig, and I have “gone on with my life” (whatever that means). But I also know that some others are not able to do that.

By: L

Sun, 09 Jun 2013 00:18:46 +0000

In response to one of the comments in this thread……I have never heard of anything so ridiculous from anyone in my entire life. You would rather “die” than go bald or wear a wig??!!! You would rather “die” than watch a beautiful sunset, go dancing with your husband/boyfriend, dig your toes in the sand and watch the waves crashing on the beach, spend time with your children or your mother or your siblings or your friends? You would rather be dead than travel to a foreign land, feel the rain on your face, eat a piece of chocolate cake, pet a sweet little fluffy kitten? It sounds to me like something more serious than hair loss going on. It is insulting to those of us who have lived completely hair free for decades and have raised our families while working full time IN OUR WIGS…and YES! even sweating in them. Oh the horror of it all!!! Yes..it sucks, it is uncomfortable, it is HOT in the summer…you can’t swim in them either but trust me…I won’t drown myself in the deep end because of it. I have a family that relies on me for comfort, love, advice and support…don’t know what I’d say in my suicide note that could make a strong enough argument for me offing myself because I didn’t have hair. Hair is “Vanity”, period. Please…go spend a couple hundred bucks on a nice wig and live your life..change the length, the color, the style..try to have fun with it…there are more of us than you realize..yes..wigs are THAT GOOD! They aren’t affected by the weather and ALWAYS look great too. I am thankful that I have all of my body parts, I can see and hear and I don’t have a terminal illness. I guarantee you this… one day you will wish the only thing you had to worry about was wearing a wig.

By: lina

lina — Fri, 31 May 2013 19:33:28 +0000

wow, I am extremely sad to hear you would rather die than be bald or wear hair. I too am 44 and I have been dealing with hair loss since 18 years of age. I felt like I wanted to die but I was just so sad and wanted the pain to stop, I really didn’t want to die.
This site is about a connection of women who have experienced such trauma, sadness and despair over hair loss, who have found they are not alone, that they are worthy, compassionate, lovely individuals inside and out.
I wear a wig now, is it my dream? Absolutely not, but it has given me the tools to pick up the pieces, find meaning and happiness.
May I ask you – do you think any less of me because I wear a wig?
How about if someone you loved went bald, would you prefer they be dead? I’m sure not, so don’t be so hard on yourself.
Wearing hair takes getting used to but if I can do it, I’m pretty sure anyone can do it.
I wear a buff to the gym (like on Survivor). You know, I always hid my strands under a hat, so even if people are wondering what is going on underneath, I’m there to work out.
My life experiences, not just hair, have taught me that some people will talk no matter what – you can’t stop the nature of some people.
Hair loss sucks large – it ripples into so much more of our lives and robs us. I hope you find the strength from all our sisters here to see that there is and can be more.
Good luck on your journey.

thank you to Y and all the ladies here for giving me a sisterhood and the perseverance to move forward.

Happy Friday,
Lina

By: z

Fri, 31 May 2013 01:19:12 +0000

so what do you wear/ do when you want to go to the gym to work out. this has been the most troubling thought about losing my hair. i sweat alot and a sweaty wig does not sound fun nor clean. i dont want stares or people to know i have no hair. im sorry, people look ok in this video but for me personally, id rather be DEAd than wear a wig! or walk around bald. its NOT OK! i have prayed for the cure to my hair loss and for others everyday since i was 26. i am 44 and it is just getting worse. ive lost 3/4 of my hair. i will die soon. i will not live like this much longer. i know you understand how i feel.

By: Nicole Smith

Nicole Smith — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 08:58:02 +0000

So beautifully done. It was amazing and so inspiring. Loved watching every minute of it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

By: Erica Bable-Pidcock

Erica Bable-Pidcock — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 23:56:15 +0000

You all are beautiful. None of us asked for this, but really nice to see others in my shoes.

By: sherae

sherae — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 03:45:17 +0000

this was a great video and so helpful to see how great everyone looks no matter what route the chose with thier look.
Thanks for sharing.

By: Cat

Cat — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 01:56:24 +0000

WOW! I think you are all amazing and beautiful women. I’m 28 and have been slowly but surely losing hair for the last 3 years. My hairline has been receding and experiencing some thinning as well…and I know you all understand how disheartening the experience it. But I LOVED that video–thanks for sharing and inspiring me.