Comments on: Living For Today

By: Lou

Lou — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 05:25:05 +0000

I am so happy to have stumbled onto this site, I have spent the last few moments reading your stories with tears running down my face, to see what I am feeling written down by others feeling the same way. I have suffered hair loss for 20yrs in varying degrees, from small patches to the whole crown (current situation) . It has completely ruled my life and those of who I love, I missed many of my children’s school events, most of my husbands work and social events – seriously, I would find a beautiful dress, feel amazing in it and then look at myself in the mirror and see a bald ugly women starting back at me so wouldn’t go. It has stopped me from living life, experiencing life and all that the world offers – had a trauma moment in the airport when security insisted I remove my scarf and I felt the whole departure lounge stop and stare (of course they weren’t, only the people behind me, but at that moment I swore never to get on a plane again). And now finally, my husband of 24yrs blurted out in May that he can no longer do “us” anymore, that my insecurity and lack of confidence has ruled our lives, that he feels suffocated by the constraints of not being able to live life to the full. He left in June and I am now alone, feeling abandoned, no friends and family near me as I have pushed them all away, no job as I stopped working years ago convinced that no employer would want me, and living half way around the world from my family – which means getting on a plane ….. I have tried wigs and I have a hair piece which I can clip in, but they feel so fake to me and I convince myself that people can tell ( I know, its crazy), so I just tend to wear scarves and hats. Now I am facing a future alone, I would love to think – and I dream – of meeting someone who will love me for who I am and not what I look like; but who am I kidding, men go for looks first, so I am destined to be alone. Since my husband left though I have started taking care of myself – I see myself as a caterpillar at the moment and I have made it my goal to become a beautiful butterfly. I have started taking supplements for hair, skin and nails, I have also started massaging my head 3x week with a mix of coconut oil, rosemary oil and peppermint oil – they are supposed to reduce hair loss, promote new growth and nourish you hair and scalp. Only been doing it for a couple of months but I definitely notice a difference. Anyway, thanks for a wonderful site, I love all you guys, you are all an inspiration to me, big hugs to you all xx

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 30 Jul 2014 02:04:47 +0000

Reading this post and all the comments has brought me to tears. I feel like I am alone in all of this, and no matter what you say to your loved ones, they don’t truly understand. It’s comforting to see this group and know there are others out there.

I am grateful that I have my health as much as I do. I’m afraid a combination of getting off birth control, thyroid and autoimmune illness brought this all on.

I have lost 50% of my hair in one year. It’s diffuse thinning so transplant is not an option for me. I’ve watched my beautiful brown hair transform into a lifeless, brittle mess.

I’m still in my 20’s and it’s absolutely devastating. I can’t get a straight answer from any doctors and they really don’t seem to care because it’s not life threatening. Again, I’m grateful for the health I have – autoimmune issues aside – but feel like I am hanging on by a thread here.

It’s completely taken over my life. I’m a pretty positive person, but this has brought me down to my knees. I’ll be fine one minute, dreaming of never having a bad hair day if I have to make the transition to wigs, and then the next minute, I’m crying in the car… or in the bathroom at work… or at the salon.

I know I am rambling now, but there is comfort in writing down my thoughts and feelings. I don’t know any of you, but I love you and wish I could make this end for all of us.

Cheers!

By: Britt

Britt — Wed, 23 Apr 2014 21:18:03 +0000

This is so me right now. I’ve been dealing with hair loss for about 9 months (I know, not long at all) now and all I keep thinking is “WHY ME?! What did I do to bring this on?”
I regularly pass up social events and barely want to go anywhere but work and home. Of course, if I could I wouldn’t even go to work feeling the way I do. I know it is silly and I am limiting myself, but I just am not sure how to get out of my “funk”.
I am so glad to have stumbled onto your blog and that you are here to support women since this topic seems to still be “taboo”.

By: imintheresomewhere

imintheresomewhere — Wed, 14 Aug 2013 14:52:15 +0000

Well I will certainly be reading this several times and often! Thank you so much! xoxoxo Sonia

By: Lucinda

Lucinda — Tue, 06 Aug 2013 03:22:44 +0000

I have read this piece a thousand times and read it again whenever I am feeling hopeless and hideous. It is my inspiration and I hope to reach this place of acceptance too before I waste more of my 30’s and this precious life I have worked so hard to build for myself. I’m not there yet but I will get there. Thank you Y x

By: katrina

katrina — Wed, 17 Jul 2013 15:21:51 +0000

p.s. I mean a full head of bio hair of course,not a wigs…:) My english is not as good but hope you understood what I wanted to say;) I really believe( except-its hard to be done in reality),that,like someone at those books said ,,what you put your attension on,grows”. The power of mind is still a mystery…And maybe thats true that ,,if something is called incurable that means is curable from inside”. Not everyone is able to focus and fully concentrate on health(hair growth for example)while really there is an illness or problem like a hair loss.But those who did that and trusted,will heal,forgot about a problem they have,often were called,like mirris goodman ,,miracle people”.Medicine doesnt know many answer couse its taking care of just a body.And I think,sometimes mind healing is nessesery.I am gonna try that way.which is not easy on bad shedding days,like today;(

By: katrina

katrina — Wed, 17 Jul 2013 10:27:18 +0000

hi! I am wonder if any of you ,,tried” the metaphysical method of self healing by Evelyn Monahan(find it in internet) for example, or visualization like Morris Goodman did?! At this point of my hair loss I stopped belive on any medications,doctors etc. Couse maybe the power of our minds is the one what could help!I dont know…..I am reading the books like ,,secret”, ,,You can heal your life” by Louise L.Hay and maybe thats true:change way of our thinking may cure us…?Has anyone some experiens with that???? Do you believe a visualization of what we want may bring it to us? Notice:we all concentrate on what we DONT WANT:on hair loss.maybe thats a deal!Maybe we should start ,,dream” and focus on heads full of hair and then….it will come…one day…..

By: A

Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:22:13 +0000

Amazing as always. Love you!

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:21:31 +0000

Thanks for your words. I needed something to give me strength now knowing that this journey is going to be long one. I’m not sure if I’m ready for it. I still have hair, but by the rate it’s falling out it’s only a matter of time. The fear I feel is that my options are limited. Financially, I don’t have the money to invest in a decent wig. I’ve started to collect hats, but I’m not a hat person. I try not to dwell on it and hopefully it won’t consume my life, but I’m scared that it will….thanks for sharing!

By: Ciella

Ciella — Tue, 16 Jul 2013 13:02:34 +0000

Y, thank you SO MUCH for this wonderful post and for this WHOLE community that you started here for us! I too have been following your journey through this website for many years and you were SUCH A HUGE INSPIRATION and source of strength for me. Even just FINDING this website made me realize I was not alone and I no longer felt trapped in my little world of isolation and sadness…I too had given up on LIVING and enjoying OUR LIFE. At the beginning of last year I had started looking into supplemental hair and went thru SO MUCH trial and error…and then somehow when you blogged about SUCCESS with your new helper hair (back in May last year was it?) that just gave me SO MUCH inspiration and courage and soon after I took the leap and started wearing hair. And I am SO GRATEFUL for feeling like I have my life back!
And then all the love and support from all the ladies on our network…and just seeing the goodness and inner (and outer!) beauty that shines from everyone there…is so incredibly wonderful to watch and experience. Thank you from the bottom of my heart too for bringing us all together….it is so wonderful to be able to lean on eachother for strength, support and friendship.

HUGS to you and may God bless you! I wish you so very many days of happiness!!