Comments on: I’ve Travelled So Far, Yet Find Myself Trapped… Again. Gee Thanks Hair Loss!

By: Tammie

Tammie — Fri, 15 May 2015 04:27:39 +0000

I need help real bad my hair is falling out so bad. Have been to so many Dr but they don’t know why I’m losing it. Need to find a hairstyle and a hairdresser that can help me. So far have not found anybody that can help me with this problem. I have been praying each and everyday for healing and strength because I’m getting real weak over losing my hair and how bad I look now.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 00:56:10 +0000

Hello Jan thanks for having the courage to post about something we all have felt. What has helped me over the years is this. Many years ago I went to a small salon a small business owner ma and pa type shop . The only people working there are the owner and her daughter. They are appreciative for the business and you become close over the years and then you share in each others ups and downs . Try and find a small business owner where the salon has a feeling of that movie I think was steel magnolia or something like that . Hopefully there is someone out there like that near you, I am far away in Maryland or I would give you her name. Avoid overcrowded chain shops , I don’t think I could go there. Good luck in finding a good fit it’s out there somewhere. Debbie

By: Rosie

Rosie — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 21:25:01 +0000

I’m 16 and struggling with hair loss. My hair is naturally very thin and there wasn’t much there to start with. Now I have really bad thinning on the sides of my head. I’m just so scared about having to grow up with this, will it get worse. Will it effect people employing me? Will people judge me?

By: Maxine

Maxine — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 14:32:54 +0000

I have been struggling with my hair loss for years. I have tried everything. I hate it when I talk to someone and they stare at my hair. It is obvious that my hair is thin. I cut my own hair. I will not go to a salon for the same reason as most of you. It makes me depressed and not want to leave the house. No one seems to understand.

By: FreethinkerDangerous

FreethinkerDangerous — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 22:40:03 +0000

I know how you feel, to an extent. I’m not losing hair but mine is naturally VERY fine and I really don’t like it. It’s a sensitive enough subject. Why are you losing hair though? I used to get these pills that promote hair growth. It was basically a multivitamin. I suggest getting a couple of those products, keeping your diet as healthy as possible and considering getting your hair cut a little shorter–I find that when mine is shorter it makes its thinness a little less noticable. You might also contemplate going to a doctor and finding out why it is falling out. Then you can act accordingly.

By: susy

susy — Fri, 22 Oct 2010 20:31:55 +0000

I have enough hair to make a ponytail about an inch thick (my hair is coarse, so the hairs itself are thicker), but you can see balding at my crown when I am in the light, and my part is about half-an-inch wide. I totally understand Chrissy above, about tearing myself apart, wondering if men will want me because my hair is so thin. Every fashion magazine will tell you in their standard “What Guys Want” articles that hair is very important to men, it’s a sign of fertility. While 2/3 of my days are “good” days, where I can ignore that my hair is thin and more or less go about my life, the rest of days are where I can not seem to think of anything else, and I just can’t escape the sadness and the anger and the crippling self-consciousness. On my most depressed days I can’t help but think that I should just not have the expectation that I can ever be appealing to men again.

THIS IS NONSENSE.

I want to underscore to myself and every one of us who is feeling that way: WE CAN NOT ASSUME WE KNOW HOW WE ARE AND WILL BE PERCEIVED.

The truth is that there are other reasons why I am single (bad choices due to fluctuating self-esteem, for one), and that when I am down I simply fixate on my hair loss to the point where I lose sight of how much of what I think about myself is “truth”, and how much of it is me obsessing and torturing myself.

I have thin hair, yes, this is a fact; it is also a fact that I do still meet people who are attracted to me and ask me out. I recently had a boyfriend of six months, one who met me when my hair was very noticeably thin, so my thin hair couldn’t have been a huge factor for him if he asked me out. So why did I then immediately assume, when he eventually broke up with me, that it was my hair that was to blame? That is just plain illogical thinking, and I am trying to recognize when I am being illogical and adding huge, unnecessary stress to my life.

What I am trying to do lately is recognize the horrible, self-torturing thought processes when they start. If my hair situation is more or less the same from day-to-day, then why do I allow myself to have a “good” day and then a “bad” day? Nothing about my actual hair situation changes from a Tuesday to a Sunday. Only my willingness to tear myself down.

By: Chrissy

Chrissy — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 04:41:01 +0000

This isn’t a new topic but after looking online for over an hour trying to find new treatments on the horizon I find myself in tears and back at this site which provides some consolation to me despite the fact that nothing, short of my hair growing back, will alleviate my sadness or stop me from crying uncontrollably at the moment. I completely relate to your hair salon issues. I won’t step foot in one and as a result I’ve resorted to flipping my measly hair forward to cut it myself, then flipping it up to attempt to even it out. There’s so little I don’t even think I need to do myself the injustice of going to a stylist. It’s not stylable in my opinion and looks gross. I just hate how my hair looks and I wanna cry more because if this is me at 28, what will my hair be at 38 or 48? Will I be totally bald? Plus my hair looks worse because I can’t blow dry it due to the fact I have stitches from the scalp biopsy I got on Monday, a biopsy that has caused so much fear in me as I await the results because I kinda don’t want to know if the loss is permanent. I don’t want to deal with that final nail in the coffin that oh yeah, it’s not coming back and you’re fine hair is now microscopically fine and falling out forever. It’s not just losing hair, because I feel like no one gets it, I feel like my life is over. I don’t have a boyfriend/husband, so who will date me or marry me when I’m a balding chick? I’m not trying to offend anyone else who is balding/bald/has thinning hair who does have someone in their lives, or hopes to someday, I just can say for me personally, I feel like my love life is over now and forever. And even getting extensions (which I’m afraid of because I heard they can rip hair out and I’m trying to retain what I have) or using Toppix or whatever, I don’t know if that’s the route I want to go because I don’t want to “lie” to a guy and then spring on him, hey, I’m losing my hair. I feel like that’d be unfair to do that, and then I actually think, God, maybe I shouldn’t ever attempt to have kids because what if I pass on whatever genes or illness or whatever is making me lose my hair? I just want to scream and kick someone, super hard, because it’s simply not fair. Sure, life’s not fair and things can always be worse, but I honestly have to say I’d rather lose a toe than have my hair gone. That’s not ideal, but I’d get over a missing toe. I’d give up half my liver to a transplant for my hair back. Sorry, I’m just depressed and needed to vent and I can’t talk to my family because they almost get mad at me for complaining, either because they must think it’s not that big of a deal, or they feel helpless seeing me so sad and don’t know what to say and rather I not talk about it or just accept it. I don’t think I can. I wish I could but I don’t know if I can. Thanks for your site, it’s been really helpful since I found it oh so long ago. Back to crying. 🙁

By: admin

admin — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:21:45 +0000

Hi SKLA –

Hi ended calling my hair dresser I had used previously and had her come to my house. It worked out great that way. I did a small write up about her on the forum:
http://forum.womenshairlossproject.com/showthread.php?t=93

The hair replacement place that Lisa told me about is called Lee Anthony:
http://www.leeanthony.com/

Lisa also did a post on the hair dresser she is using now in Orange County:
http://forum.womenshairlossproject.com/showthread.php?t=94

Hope that helps and Welcome to LA!

xoxo

By: SKLA

SKLA — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:20:33 +0000

Hi Y,

Did you ever find a salon in LA to cut your hair? What was the name of the hair restoration salon Lisa told you about? I just moved here and am looking for a place… thank you!!!

SKLA

By: Wanda

Wanda — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:08:58 +0000

Meemee – I am with you, girl, on the prayer!! I believe there is a “key” for each and everyone of us that will unlock this “hair door” . . . and if we believe God will show us. God is not the source of our hair loss, so I KNOW HE WANTS WOMEN TO HAVE THEIR HAIR!! And He is greater than genetics . . . you always hear from someone that it is genetic, but again, I believe we can overcome “genetics” since it often times curses us. Best wishes and keep on praying!! I know we get down, down, down, but we have to keep on fighting the good fight of faith, don’t we?