A Formula For Hair Loss Acceptance?

by Y on March 28, 2021

I have…

22 Years of Hair Loss

5 Unsuccessful Treatments

8 Years Feeling Alone ( Started The Women’s Hair Loss Project in 2007)

13 Years Spent Feeling Helpless/ Powerless 

12 Years of PRP

9 Years of Wearings Wigs

9 Years of a Shaved Back Hair Cut

And a partridge in a pear tree…..

I wish I had the exact formula to provide everyone, that one recipe to get you to feeling better, moving forward – closer to acceptance, but the one thing I do know as well as knowing my hair is not coming back, is that everyone is so different. We all process very differently, we all need to do and try things differently, and sometimes one of those things is actually doing nothing. 

I mean that in a passive and active sense. Passively doing nothing, as in we cannot AT THIS TIME make a move, and ACTIVELY doing nothing, meaning we decided, we aren’t going to do anything for our hair loss and that works just fine. 

There are zero hard and fast rules when it comes to dealing with, living and treating hair loss. 

What I can share is my story, what I can share is my hair loss life only improved when I let go of previous conceived notions, of what should and should not be, of what I could and could not accept.  It took me 13 years, but I reached a place in 2012 where doing nothing ( as in not trying wigs)  was more painful than the alternative.


It was a choice and also it wasn’t, meaning my body, my mind – my entire being could no longer take it – so it broke enough (didn’t know there was more to break) to give it a shot. 

That was what I needed to get me moving forward. That was what I needed to see I could live a life with hair loss. That was what I needed to get myself back. 

This isn’t the path for everyone, and wigs definitely aren’t for everyone – but living with hair loss does require a willingness to change our mindset. A willingness to accept things will be different. A willingness to adapt and make whatever changes you need to in your life to make that work. 

Things aren’t perfect, I didn’t blindly love my wig life/ hair loss every single day of the last 9 years, but things NEVER returned to feeling hopeless, or helpless, or powerless. I knew I had options, I found a strength I didn’t know I had – and with that I knew I would be okay.  I was someone who was extremely inflexible in my thoughts and willingness to adapt. I would see women join my site, learn about bonding and off they went… living their life. I sat paralyzed in action despite running a women’s hair loss site and community.  

It took me the time it took me. So if you aren’t there yet, know it takes the time it takes – but give yourself a fair shot. Allow in the possibility that life can continue with hair loss, you CAN be okay even if your hair loss doesn’t improve in the way you want.

Having hope is important. I know “hope is not a strategy” but it certainly is a currency I’ve tapped into for many years to get me through. 

Sending Much Love To All! 

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Mary April 2, 2021 at 7:41 am

I have been dealing with hair loss since 18 years old. It’s been hard, but I love your blogs and follow you on Instagram and it helps me feel not so alone. What were the 5 unsuccessful treatments that you had? I have had prp treatments in the past and they seem to kind of help. I plan on getting another round of treatments after my pregnancy. Do you know of anything else that seems to have worked for you in the past?


Y April 13, 2021 at 9:01 am

Hi Mary –

I posted this to social media, but decided to just post it to my site now since I know other people will probably be curious too:


The only thing I’ve personally felt good about doing is PRP, which I have done since 2009.

All my posts about PRP can be found here: https://www.womenshairlossproject.com/category/prp-therapy/

And if you hit “Previous Entires” at the bottom of the page (on the above link) you can go all the way back to Nov 2009, when I wrote about my first PRP treatment.

I’ve stuck with that since that time. I did do exosomes last year, which you will see if you click on that link above, its the latest entry on that link, but I don’t personally feel I got a quantifiable result to justify continuing to do it at this time. I may re-evaluate it again in the future, but for now I’m just sticking to PRP.

Much Love,


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