Total Randomness on Acceptance

by admin on January 29, 2014

I had a few moments of randomness this morning while I got my coffee and I wanted to discuss this randomness in dealing with hair loss, wig wearing and ultimately… acceptance.

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Debbie January 29, 2014 at 11:23 am

You are lovely – and an inspiration to me. Thank you.

Eliza January 29, 2014 at 12:51 pm

Love your perspective. I’m not yet at the stage of acceptance, yet I’m also at the stage of depression. Probably because I still have some hair to cover the bald spots, but one day I’ll have hardly any hair and I’m not sure how I’ll do. Hopefully, I’ll be stronger by then, but for now I try to find strength to inspiring words such as yours.
BTW where did you get your hat? I love it. I’m almost at the hat stage and am looking for some cool hats!

Jann January 29, 2014 at 12:59 pm

I do the same things! I cut what’s left of my hair super short, I wear hair and/or a hat like you have. Difference is, I’m 56, but I think my hair loss is partly inherited and partly due to stress as well. I have just started wearing hair last July. I never thought I would be one of “those” ladies that had hair loss, but here I am too! I get more compliments on the hair I wear than I ever did on my own hair. I have done some wig reviews if you ever want to see them..my You Tube channel is JannaStamps. Have a great day, you are fabulous! :)

Tina January 29, 2014 at 1:39 pm

I agree, we all need to find that peace. It is a very difficult thing to live with as a women. I have wore partial hair for years and now must go to the full wig. I haven’t yet….but it is coming! LOVE the WiGrip girls. It will make this process a little easier. What type of wig to pick is very hard. ANY suggestions???? I like big, curly hair. Thank you all God Bless!!!

Ciella January 29, 2014 at 2:16 pm

EXCELLENT video:)) Thank you so much for sharing…I so agree with your thoughts and advice! Many hugs & God bless xx

Gls January 29, 2014 at 2:31 pm

Thank you for this post! I hope you realize how much you help those of us with hair loss! Talking about your journey and saying that it gets better gives me (and many other people) hope and helps us to accept ourselves and move on with life. I have often gone to this site very depressed and hopeless only to become insipred and also to gain perspective. Dealing with hairloss can be so overwhelming and can cause us to dispair and loose perspective. This can often cause me to be unable to make any decisions about what to do as a possible solution. I am so grateful for you and this site ( you are on my gratitude list every day). I hope this doesn’t sound corny but it’s true-You are a trail blazer for us holding up a lantern so we can find our way. Love ya!

Mary January 29, 2014 at 4:18 pm

Thank you from the bottom of my heart – your video came at a perfect time. I’m having a bad morning after just brushing my hair then sitting there counting all the hairs that I had lost – just when I thought the shedding was doing better!
Your bravery is inspirational and you are making such a difference to my ability to cope with this problem. I can let the hair loss swallow me or move forward and live my life.
I’m also looking forward to hearing more about your newest wig – Natasha.

Marsha January 29, 2014 at 7:32 pm

This video could not have come at a better time for me. Today has been a really low day for me. I have really only been dealing with this for 3 months now and must days I make it thru the day without to many problems. But today was not one of those days, which is really hard when I am home all day with my 8 and 10 year old and trying to hide my sadness from them. I really just want to get past these feeling and onto acceptance. I can not let this get in the way of my life with my husband and my boys. Thank you so much for this video. I have a feeling that I will be watching it a lot as I continue on this journey.

Frizzy January 30, 2014 at 2:47 am

What everyone else says……great video! The ‘why why why’ bit sounded like it came from my own thoughts. We all travel the same road don’t we. Thank you for sharing, it honestly really helps so much :-)

khikhob January 30, 2014 at 6:47 am

Thank you for posting this video. I echo what several other girls have said here, that this was very timely for me. I’m seven months in to hair loss and still undiagnosed and I sometimes think that, because I don’t know the cause, that holding on to hope of the hair loss stopping is worse than embracing the reality and accepting the cards I’ve been dealt. It was so helpful to hear you say that things can get better and it’s much more about state of mind than anything else. I really admire your spirit. All the best to you.

M January 30, 2014 at 6:21 pm

Y you are an inspiration to so many people. Thank you so much for posting this. I am 25 y/o now and have been suffering from hair loss since I was 19. I wear hair now and even to this day I still tear up when I go to put my hair on. I still get so upset and feel as though I have lost my identity since I have lost my hair. Watching your video has lifted my spirits and couldn’t have come at a better time! Thanks again for posting such an inspirational video. Watching and reading your posts always inspires me and lift me up.

B January 30, 2014 at 8:38 pm

Good timing for me too. I have to go to my doctor too and am planning on wearing my wig. He is my hairloss doctor so I was planning on saying all I want is a prescription renewal. No poking no pull tests and trying to sell me laser therapy sessions at $4000. How much money do they think we have anyways? So hat or wig? Will he want me to de-wig…won’t happen. Will he renew my prescription without seeing my hair? Who knows? This will be my first time walking in there with a wig so not sure how he will react or how calm and cool I will be but I will try and fake it. Anyways it is helpful to have your videos and appreciate your sharing as that is helpful also.

Emma January 30, 2014 at 11:05 pm

Thank you so much!! You are always such an inspiration for me!!!

S January 31, 2014 at 1:57 pm

Your videos help me. I’m on the brink of wearing hair and having an extremely hard time emotionally. I’m just wondering though, why do you always wear glasses/hats? If this has been answered before please direct me there, still finding my way around. :)

admin January 31, 2014 at 4:50 pm

Much thanks to everyone for your comments and I’m so glad it resonated with so many of you!!!

@Debbie – Thank you!

@Eliza – I got my hat from “Theory” http://www.theory.com but I’m not sure if that have that exact one anymore.

@Jann – I will be se sure to check out your Youtube channel! :)

@Tina – I’m not sure the best type of wig for big curly hair because my hair was always super straight, I’ve always admired the curly hair girls though, my mom has curls and I always was so jealous. We always seem to want what we don’t have, ha.

@Ciella – Hugs to you as well

@Gls – I’m so glad hearing about my journey has been of comfort to you. It’s a hard road traveled for all of us and I know that from once having been in the darkest hole possible and emerging to discover life didn’t end with my hair loss is a message I definitely want other women to know and see. Even when we think it will never be okay… it certainly can be, I’m living proof of that. ((hugs))

@Mary – I’ll be sure to share about Natasha soon! She’s getting lots of wear time and love lately. Forward movement is key. Too many years missed for my hair loss, and I don’t wish for any woman to walk that path. While sometimes we cannot control the actual hair loss, we can control our thoughts and perspective about what is happening. We can change how we view it, treat it and adapt with it.

@Marsha – I’m very sorry to hear you are struggling right now. Some days are harder than others for sure, I’m sending much love your way and know you have a support network here for you!

@Frizzy – Indeed, we do all travel the same road for sure… same thoughts and habits, from counting hairs to questioning everything about how we landed here. “Why why why” I played that game too many times to count which just kept me in a vicious cycle of self defeat and unable to move forward. I had to ultimately abandon the “why me” and just say “Why not me? It’s here, deal with it.”

@khikhob – Thank you, best to you too!

@M – I’m so glad my posts and videos have helped. It is hard (harder for some than others, as anything usually is) to make peace with wearing hair. To adjust to that being the new normal and fully accept it, but I think only with acceptance (at least for me ) comes ultimate peace with all of it. It’s not perfect, nothing ever will be unless my hair all grew back, but it’s good enough for sure, and sometimes “good enough” has to be good enough :)

@B- Since you see him for your hair, he may want to inspect your scalp for sure, if it’s going to be a process of de-wigging, then I’d opt for hat, for sure, it’s way easier to quickly yank a hat off and slide it back on. Depending on how nice and understanding your doc is, he may renew your script with having to see your hair, hard to say right? I’d assume he’s gonna wanna check it out, so hat it up !

@Emma – XOXO

@S – I’m a super private person, think private and then multiple that by a million. Prior to wearing wigs I never really posted photos of myself and have only done so after wigs changed my life because I felt so many women could benefit from seeing another woman wearing hair and living life and the in and outs and daily dealings of doing so, so I pushed beyond my comfort level. In doing that I still wanted some anonymity, I am private after all… so that’s what the sunglasses are about. As far as the hat, I’m not comfortable making videos or photos without my wig or hat, I’m not comfortable sharing pictures of my real hair, so I don’t. I just do the best I can with my comfort level.

XOXO

Korva February 2, 2014 at 10:58 am

Thank you for sharing. This has been one of those weekends that have really hit my self esteem. Yesterday I wanted to run to the store, but I just could not get my hair to look “normal.” No matter how I teased or sprayed with hairspray, the scalp showed. I’m 28 freakin years old. There are 40 y/o women who have more hair than me. I did the whole crying thing. I want to accept my hair but it’s hard. I used to be known for my beautiful, thick, curly hair. Such irony.
Anyway, please don’t stop making videos. I feel like you’re the only one who knows how I feel right now!

PS, where did you get that hat? I want one!

Gls February 2, 2014 at 2:26 pm

FYI- Headcovers unlimited, Zappos, REI, Urban Outfitters, all have some pretty cool looking hats.

Lauren February 2, 2014 at 6:05 pm

You go, girl! :) XO

Lostlocks June 17, 2014 at 1:53 am

I needed to hear this Monica, thank you x

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