I received this email, and requested permission to share it here, with all of you. Much thanks to “A” for writing me this incredibly amazing email and allowing me to share her story. I had gotten home one night and made a quick check of my email and saw this in my box, I felt moved, excited, touched and inspired all over again. Thank you!
I want to thank you for your wonderfully honest, heartfelt, and supportive web site. I found the womenshairlossproject site one day on the internet and my life hasn’t been the same since. I have been struggling since my late 20s with thinning hair due to androgenic alopecia and I am 49 now. I so wanted it to be a medical issue that I could then take a pill and be cured but that was not to be. I took aldactone for a while and it stopped the shedding but I hated taking pills so I went off those after a year. I found a shampoo for thinning hair that controls the shedding for me and I have used it for several years (Nisim is the brand). However, the diffuse thinning continues and it’s worse on the top of my head. I have been wearing baseball caps everywhere for over 15 years now, even at work, it’s my signature look.
I have been living (and I use the term living loosely) a subdued life, shunning social activities and just not being able to enjoy the outdoors. Being naturally shy anyway, my hair condition has made me hyper sensitive and even more uncomfortable being with other people for fear of being found out, stared at, or laughed at. You don’t realize how insidious the negative inner dialog becomes until you see yourself 20 years along in your hair loss and how much you’ve retreated from life. You also can’t help becoming more cynical of people thinking they have nothing better to do than find weaknesses in you to possibly exploit.
I have grown especially weary over the last year of wearing hats, of spending an hour fixing my hair moving one hair this way and another that way hoping for a better outcome, of feeling less worthy and less than in everything. I traversed the web to find solutions and support and I found it with you and your web site. I found hope and realized I wasn’t as alone as I felt. I began to believe that my life could be different. I began to believe that I didn’t have to hide anymore and that there are solutions. It took many months for me to finally decide to DO something. I originally shied away from wigs because I believed it’s harder to hide wearing a blonde wig and I didn’t want anyone to know I was wearing a wig.
Your experience with and review of the Follea wig products inspired me to look into their product. I was inspired by how natural they look and I felt that this hair was right up my alley. I made an appointment with a Follea stylist and made a whole road trip out it as the salon was in a different state. For me, choosing to go with a premium wig from the outset was the right thing to do. Choosing to go with Follea Aero was the best decision I could have made for my situation. The hair was beautiful, the wig comfortable, the stylist wonderful, and I felt like a new person when I wore the wig.
The next big step for me was to go to work wearing my new hair. She got wrinkled on the ride back so I decided not to wear her that week. I was afraid of doing something wrong to it, I’d never washed, worn, or styled a wig in my life so I was a bit intimidated by the whole thing. I planned to wear her the following week. I washed her on a Thursday, let her dry overnight, and did the best I could to style her….she didn’t need much help from me thank goodness. I surprised myself by actually wearing her and I wore her with a level of confidence I didn’t know I had. I had positive feedback from some people (which was nice to get), no comments from other people (which is absolutely fine by me as I didn’t want it to be a big deal), and then I had a comment at the end of the day from the office gossip….”I have to ask, is it a wig or extensions?” Huh. I took it in stride and lied and said they were extensions. There’s ALWAYS one person out there who has no manners and won’t mind their own business but I didn’t let it ruin my mood or how I felt about my decision. I am not yet ready to declare to anyone but close family that I wear a wig. Maybe I will in time decide to do that but I want it to be on my own terms.
I am on the pathway to rediscovering the possibilities in my life and my hair is not going to hold me back. Life is good. Thank you for all you’ve done to help women accept themselves as they are.
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