Elle.

He and I met online and he sent me messages regularly…I overlooked them and responded to those that kept inquiring about me. Once I revealed my wig secret, they wigged out and stopped contact with me. Some never returned my emails, some just said it wasn’t an issue but stopped messaging altogether. I gave him a shot and now we’re getting along famously. My fears of intimacy are starting to kick in: its hard to kiss without having the stupid wig in my face or mouth; I get nervous that once he puts his hands around my head, he’ll knock it off! I’m worried he’ll think my head looks disgusting and freak out! I’ve already rejected so many ideas in my head: like working out together (we work out at the same gym), going swimming or relaxing in the hot tub after a work out. (I brought it up to see what he’d say, but don’t know if I could fake my confidence enough to do it, simply not that brave!)

He doesn’t tell me his feelings or mentions my situation and it’s quite frustrating. I really want to know. I guess i’m blowing things out of proportion as he said to me, “apparently, I really like you too!” He’s flawless, he’s about an inch shorter than me and i’ve since purchased 2 new pairs of flats! (taking a break from the achy heels) We had a talk and agreed that no matter what our goals in life, what flaws we have…if we really like each other, none of those things should matter. Deep down, I just want some reassurance. He’s an educator and a coach, which takes up a lot of his time. I’m more than willing to take the good with the bad, whereas most men i’ve met, just want the good…
As for me, I feel like shaving my head! I mentioned in a previous response to Elle’s story that I really want to know if he’s so accepting of my situation, and the only way for me to find out is if I shave my head. I don’t feel attractive without hair. I’m at a point where I want to take the plunge but also want to see if Spironolactone and the laser comb will help save my strands.

I will keep you all posted…i pray for people that cannot accept me, I hope they never have to endure the kind of pain and suffering I went through.

Everytime I read the line I wrote “Be Nice to me I’m going bald!” I still giggle a little. Its just so silly. You are welcome to borrow that, if I was a more comfortable with myself I would have those printed and slap it on the back of my car.
I’m so happy for you that you’ve met someone. So you’ve told him about your hair loss, how did he respond? obviously it must have been a good response since you said that its going good so far. Keep us updated!

By the way, I met someone online-so far so good! I told him about the website. I most certainly am in NO WAY comfortable to take it off yet….I hope he never has to see it; i’m trying to prolong it as much as possible.

I think its funny that you forgot why he nagged you, I think that shows how much you 2 care for each other, that the little things don’t matter.