Mimi: Have nightmare of being bald too!! I also have dreams where I just stare at the thickness of people’s hair (men and women) I do that in real life anyways but yes my hair loss obsession even penetrates my dreams. Isn’t that the time where we are suppose be dreaming of bunnies or rainbows or something? The coconut oil hair treatment sounds pretty awesome. Hooray for new hairs growing in a everything else being a bit thicker!

Emma: I am not a doctor so I cannot speak definitively on this, but it is my opinion that the swimming pool Chlorine is NOT going to make your hair loss any worse. It may dry out the hair a little, but I don’t think its going to exacerbate any hair loss. I’d have no qualms about jumping in a pool everyday if that was my thing. So swim, enjoy, the relaxation and stress relief you get from it can only help.

When you say your mom wants to control your hair treatment what do you mean? I think that her wanting to be involved and supportive is wonderful, but you have to be comfortable with any decisions being made about YOUR hair.

Enjoy your swims, I’m more of a sinker than a swimmer. I tried to swim at a health club pool awhile back and I sware it took me FOREVER to get from one side to the other. I’m such a slow swimmer, definitely not my thing, I’m more of a runner. I remember there being like a 80 year old man in the next lane and he was just flying through the pool like a fish There is something really undeniably refreshing about swimming though, so I can definitely see the appeal.

All The Best,
~Y

Does anybody know if going to the swimming-pool can make the process of hair loss and thinning worse? I just love swimming and it is my only stress-relief. Can chlorine or drying harm my hair a lot?

I’ve been reading all the posts on this website for half a day today. I can feel so much pain and emotions in all those posts. And any woman who has to deal with hair loss problem is really strong.

My Mom decided that she has to control my hair treatment, because I dont want to do anything…. If only she knew how many differnet shampoos I tried for the last two years I lvied away from her, how much money Ipaid for the vitamins or for other medications. I just dont know what to do any more. Also, my sculp is itching all the time…

Thanks,
Emma

Adliana - I know what you mean about having the exact same hair style for so many years. That’s what has happened to me. I’ve had to same style for more years than I can even remember. I was recently so jealous of a brand new hair style my sister had gotten. She looks so great. The style is so beautiful on her. And I did tell her so. She thanked me and said, you should get it done too, if you really like it. What she does not understand, is that I’m stuck exactly where I am, and can NEVER get another style. I need to stick with the one I have, that covers whatever it can. I am sometimes devastated when I think of how I will NEVER have the options my sister has, and get any hairstyle I want. I even think about all those make-overs done on TV, like when Oprah does them. And there is always so much emphasis on how their hair and make-up was done, and how those changes made such a difference in how they look. Of course the clothes they put them in helps, but the looks are never complete with just the clothes. Hair style is always a big part. I would never be a candidate for a make-over for that reason.

As I read through everyones story, I can really relate, and understand their feelings, as I have had so many of these feeling too. I’m so glad for this forum, so we can all be there for each other.

Carly

I am keeping everyone in my thoughts and prayers.
I read affirmations and Bible verses to lift my spirit. I even pray for the people saying things about me. For me, I have to take action or else I will spiral into what was said, what I should have done and countless other worries. But when I think of the greater picture, it is what God says that matters most. I read positive words especially when I feel down–because even though I lost my hair, I am far from losing my spirit or my beauty for that matter.

Love, Joy & Smiles
Lynnie

My 23 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with AA and I found this site while scouring the internet for information. I don’t know where her AA journey is going to take her but she has already discovered that even friends can say stupid, stupid things. Reading the stories and comments online written by people like you will hopefully give me enough insight to let me be a person she can trust rather than a person who pushes her away by saying something insensitive.

A woman can be beautiful without the hair. I believe that. I hope that the people in my daughter’s world let her believe it and don’t mess around with her because of their own insecurities or preconceived notions. I guess that it is inevitable that some people will hurt her. I am going to work incredibly hard to be one of the people who look at her and really see her…..an amazing girl. I want her to know that even though I cannot understand what she is going through, I am there to listen.

It hurts whenever people talk to me, their eyes are looking at ‘it’. It really hurts even more when no one my age knows what the hell am I going through and coming from a country where no one really knows what I’m going through and people would just mock you all the time about it. I’m constantly being harrassed either by words or by looks. Collecting hats is my hobby because I wear them all the time. I am young, wild, I go to concerts, clubs, and have fun all time but I can’t go all out headbanging or dance crazy because mostly I will be shoving my ’shiny crowning glory’ into everyone’s face.

It’s even worst that now I’m in college and studying fashion. All I can do is parade with different hats rather than crazy hair. I used to have nice glorious hair that I style it frequently. Now, I’m just stuck with the same haircut since 5 years ago. I feel so low of myself. It effects my in all aspect. I remember when I use to be vividly outgoing and extremely confident doing anything. I used to be a really active sports person. I swim, play soccer, field hockey, run, but now I can’t because I just want to wear hats all the time.

I was on Spiro (50mg) few years ago. I only lasted on it for 5 months because I couldn’t take all the side effects (breast tenderness, nausea, headaches, feeling of tiredness). I had to decrease my intake because it effected my school performance. I was extremely tired and couldn’t do much or move around a lot. I hate it so much! Now, I just let my friends who had high blood pressure take it.

But now school is almost over and I think I should overtake this problem ASAP. I need to boost my self esteem in order to be ahead in life.

I’m telling my story here because if you or your friends have daughters that may go through what I’m going through, please do something about it for their sake. I’m still young and have so much things to do in life. I can’t let this matter stop me from what I want to do. I’m scared to go back on the pills. I don’t know if I can do it.

Have not been part of this forum for a while but felt sorely in need after my first wig buying experience on Friday. I too have AA by the way, and have very little hair on the top of my head. The fact that I’m trying for a baby means that spiro, rogaine etc are not an option for me.

Trying on the wig ( beautiful as it was, 500 GBP worth of real hair) made me feel awful. It looked so unnatural and my own hair in a horrible net underneath, made me feel incredibly unattractive. I immediately went out of the shop and indulged in a bout of emotional eating that has lasted for three days. Great, now am bald and fat

Really must get a grip and deal with this situation. Sorry that this is just a rant, but just need to get it off my chest.

Take care ladies and stay strong.